tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post7129946498040146706..comments2023-04-07T10:28:40.530+01:00Comments on Rum-Punch Drunk: Anti-Social NetworkingRum-Punch Drunkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comBlogger72125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-6572246916143556322013-03-25T13:09:10.638+00:002013-03-25T13:09:10.638+00:00Wow Carly, your heart must have been so broken aft...Wow Carly, your heart must have been so broken after hearing that it was all a big pack of lies, especially at such a young age and being in love. It is so unfortunate that this still happens today. I've heard about people being approached by guys via the internet who spend all day either grooming the victim for sex or to extract large amounts of money from them. I was going to say that the young ones are targets but it does also happen to the more mature women too. <br /><br />Thanks for sharing your experience with us all Carly, I'm sure it wasn't an easy thing to do at first. I also hope that your comment will help to make someone else stop and think before they accept everything that is being said to them via the internet. Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-20492950524338981222013-03-16T13:05:35.708+00:002013-03-16T13:05:35.708+00:00When I was 17, I met a guy online, he was 18, and ...When I was 17, I met a guy online, he was 18, and in another state of Australia. We talked online initially, and then on the phone. Boys hadn't paid me much attention before, and so I believed I was in love. He said he loved me. We would talk for hours and hours. One day he called me to tell me his ex girlfriend was pregnant with his child. He was due to fly to meet me - I stupidly told my parents about his baby, and they flipped out. He still came to meet me, and stay with me for 2 weeks. I fell more in love with him when he stayed. It was my first sexual experience. He said he loved me too, in person, looking into my eyes. He returned home and I didn't near from him for a while. He got back in touch with me 2 weeks after he left, I was so sad. He was making a new start with his ex gf for their child. We continued to talk online. I loved him so much. His mother died, hid child was born. He told me if it wasn't for the baby we'd be together. This Weston for five years, us talking. I thought we'd always have a connection. One day, I got a call from him, late at night. His phone suddenly went flat. I didn't think much of it, phones go flat. Two hours later, at 12 am, a woman called me, asking how I knew this guy, why was I calling him? I told her, and said that I always asked of he was seeing someone, and he'd always so no. I had no reason not to trust him. I told her about the baby, and his mum. Only, there wasn't a baby, and his mother wasn't dead. He had kept his lies for 5 years, later telling me he wanted to be more than he was, to impress me. The only things I know about him are his age, name and occupation. The rest of it - lies. Carly Findlayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01368145710452826385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-32920549176401889382013-01-18T20:04:09.144+00:002013-01-18T20:04:09.144+00:00I'm glad I did leave a comment, you speak from...I'm glad I did leave a comment, you speak from the heart, you speak up your mind and I appreciate that, you're sincere, you're straight forward. Enjoying your last post, see you there :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16818122965976561246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-53700546686296508542013-01-18T13:21:47.035+00:002013-01-18T13:21:47.035+00:00Thanks for the comment Gabriel. I guess when there...Thanks for the comment Gabriel. I guess when there is nothing to do, the internet is a way of keeping busy, and making lots of online contacts whether for blogging, friends or family etc.. so in that respect, it is a good thing. The main thing is always to be as safe as you can. Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-69905416399960894202013-01-18T13:21:04.676+00:002013-01-18T13:21:04.676+00:00I still don't feel safe enough with doing all ...I still don't feel safe enough with doing all these online transactions, so for now I'm steering well clear. But, I do believe that the day is coming when I won't get a choice in the matter. Nice to hear from you Kellie and hope to hear from you again. Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-71892747427302067242013-01-18T12:31:42.742+00:002013-01-18T12:31:42.742+00:00Ok, it's official, I'm crazy jealous of yo...Ok, it's official, I'm crazy jealous of you,for amazing posts you get tons of amazing comments, are you working, do you really need a job when you have this blog :) ?<br /><br />as for the internet/online addiction i am extremely careful not to give more than it needs to be given, one words that describes is security, i am very careful what info i am giving out, and yes, i am addictied but only because there isn't much for me to do, i know it might sounds as complaining but it's not, long story anyway and not sure you wanna hear about it<br /><br />in the end, i agree with every single thing you said in your post<br /><br />hope you can find some time to stop by my blog to give a read to my latest post http://gabrieldilaurentis.com/energy-the-positive-the-negative/<br /><br />thanks, you're awesome :) thanks for your comments made on bloggers.com :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16818122965976561246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-76333446597756853232013-01-18T10:04:25.994+00:002013-01-18T10:04:25.994+00:00I've definitely made the move to where most of...I've definitely made the move to where most of the important things in my life are done online. Paying bills, shopping, working, socialising. I don't think it stops me from doing all the "real world" things though, it's just changing the location of things I already did.Kellie @ Delightfully Ludicroushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18226603919012169939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-54697687289508733052013-01-18T09:26:13.403+00:002013-01-18T09:26:13.403+00:00Oh JerseyLil, you might not spend too much time on...Oh JerseyLil, you might not spend too much time on the internet but I know that your dogs do... I read your latest post, ha ha ha. <br /><br />Thank you so much for the tips about safety and keeping your anti-virus software up to date. Sorry to hear how much info you lost, it was a harsh lesson but at least you are now aware what you need to do, so it won't happen again. Certain things can just slip your mind at times. <br /><br />I heard a long time ago how emails were hacked into and then the hackers tried to get money from all the contacts in that persons email account. They succeeded by stating that the person was in need of urgent help abroad on holiday, and after losing their IDs, money etc they needed the funds instantly to get them back into the country. The lengths some people go to. <br /><br />Thank you so much for the comment JerseyLil, which has given me much more to think about. Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-31085382517185881572013-01-18T09:12:48.765+00:002013-01-18T09:12:48.765+00:00Yes, it's kinda like knowing when you've h...Yes, it's kinda like knowing when you've had too much to drink. Thanks Kyle. Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-52302575098819505622013-01-18T09:08:47.256+00:002013-01-18T09:08:47.256+00:00Thanks for the comment and welcome My Meddling Min...Thanks for the comment and welcome My Meddling Mind :)Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-3291926742082989422013-01-18T06:31:17.004+00:002013-01-18T06:31:17.004+00:00Michelle you would be surprised. I know that the t...Michelle you would be surprised. I know that the thought of disconnecting is scary. But I did end up disconnecting - my computer crashed on me while my phone charger is also connected to my computer - so I was in the "dark" for a few days and on a trip. It felt great! OneBigMistake, andSomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01921611798200613410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-22876474518083818472013-01-18T06:29:05.465+00:002013-01-18T06:29:05.465+00:00You should. I know the author very well. I think y...You should. I know the author very well. I think you will like it :) Keep your toes safe OneBigMistake, andSomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01921611798200613410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-31500878733593419482013-01-18T03:01:32.960+00:002013-01-18T03:01:32.960+00:00Just like most things, the internet can be a power...Just like most things, the internet can be a powerful tool if used properly and in moderation. When it gets to the point where you value browsing the web over being a productive member of society or you substitute internet relationships over real ones, it may be time to take a step ( or two) back. Kylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04012500481046373323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-68976440265086078302013-01-18T02:21:39.388+00:002013-01-18T02:21:39.388+00:00I love the internet and have met so many wonderful...I love the internet and have met so many wonderful people on it. However, I am still cautious to the best of my ability, but that's just second nature to me on and off the net. With all the horror stories I've heard I do wish children and teens would practice a bit more annonimity, then again, I guess we can all be vulnerable. Sassy https://www.blogger.com/profile/12473560581723247919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-59652608384984013712013-01-17T19:13:55.910+00:002013-01-17T19:13:55.910+00:00Hi Rum-Punch Drunk! Personally, I don’t think I sp...Hi Rum-Punch Drunk! Personally, I don’t think I spend too much time on the Internet but, of course, my answer is subjective. I can say for a fact that I don’t spend that much time on Facebook. I never play Farmville or any games there. I probably spend more time on blogs and email, and searching the Internet for information. All in all, I really love the Internet and social media.<br /><br />I’ve been scammed via email requests from seemingly sincere people but I didn’t bite. Almost did once b/c the request for help came from a friend’s email address. But caution prevailed and I found out my friend had never sent that email, she had been hacked. Occasionally, I run into trolls on Facebook and block them. A few times spammers have left garbage comments on my blog. I delete the comment and block them.<br /><br />My tip for Internet security is keeping your anti-virus software updated. Just having it installed isn’t enough, you need to be sure you’re getting all the recent updates b/c there are new viruses all the time (and if you want automatic updates, sometimes you have to manually set that option). A year ago, I got a nasty computer virus while surfing the web. Destroyed tons of data on my hard drive! Wiped it out just like that! I was stunned because I had antivirus software installed. Turns out I had inadvertently neglected to keep it updated by setting the right option. Updating is key. Big lesson learned there!<br /><br />Security on social sites is a tricky thing. On blogs you can be vague about your exact identity if you want. But on sites like Facebook, everyone knows who you are, where you are, and hackers sometimes get in. No site can be a fortress of security. On FB and sites like that, I never post my phone number, not even my mobile. I never say when I’m going out of town or even out to dinner. I might post pics when I get back but not before. So many people post every detail of their life on FB, not very safe at all. People let their guard down too much. I try to err on the side of caution, but that’s my nature. This is a good post and good questions that are difficult to answer clearly in this modern society. <br />JerseyLilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18381518701383106141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-55739146825057197592013-01-17T16:27:03.812+00:002013-01-17T16:27:03.812+00:00It's good to hear that you are taking an activ...It's good to hear that you are taking an active interest in what your son is doing on the internet. Many parents don't, as they are happy to have the extra free time. In some cases, but not all, it is a case of 'out of sight out of mind'. <br /><br />I too feel that some children spend way to much time on social sites and can't even hold a decent conversation in person. Everything in moderation I say. <br /><br />The internet has come a long way in spreading the gospel. I remember my church background well, and it was a case of door to door or face to face on the streets. Now at a touch of a button you can find anything on the whole web and get to comment on it. <br /><br />As much as I hate to say this, I do feel that some professions need to be careful in what they share to the public. Religion can cause great anger amongst some folk, and sometimes it is best to keep personal info about family/riends personal. Thanks again for you comment Frank. Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-15067554981057670892013-01-17T14:23:29.263+00:002013-01-17T14:23:29.263+00:00Nice to hear from you, and I hope that your relati...Nice to hear from you, and I hope that your relationship goes well. Judgement does play a role too, and at the end of the day, the responsibility lies with you in doing all the necessary checks before you tie the knot. Let me know when that big day happens so I too can celebrate with you here. Looking forward to seeing you here again and thanks for the comment. Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-87281307710639036282013-01-17T14:16:35.188+00:002013-01-17T14:16:35.188+00:00NP, you always have a very relaxed way of looking ...NP, you always have a very relaxed way of looking at life, but I would have been in a wild blind panic if someone hacked my accounts. I do hope that nothing dire happens but as you can see, sometimes that's not always the case. You've been hacked twice now, so do what you need to do to stop it happening a third time I say :). <br /><br />I think I just might fit neatly into the category of worry a bit too much. I need to take a leaf out of your book NP. I'm relaxing this weekend :)Thanks for commenting. Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-46821862375129800532013-01-17T14:02:37.364+00:002013-01-17T14:02:37.364+00:00Thank you so much Jamie, I truly appreciate you th...Thank you so much Jamie, I truly appreciate you thinking of me and left you a PM. I shall in no doubt pop over to see what you have in store for us. Thanks again. Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-13655992018018719472013-01-17T00:39:45.354+00:002013-01-17T00:39:45.354+00:00I love the internet. I go on Tumblr a lot and Face...I love the internet. I go on Tumblr a lot and Facebook. I actually met the person I want to marry on Tumblr. I think to be safe you have to use your own judgement. When you see a FB account with maybe 10 friends and no pictures, maybe you shouldn't be talking to that person. Because, they may not be who they say they are. But, if you see the account with a good number of friends or some pictures or maybe other people tagged them in things... see it's really just using your own judgement.Jodie-Ann Mucklerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02723368831343988639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-83859066593949556252013-01-16T18:54:47.234+00:002013-01-16T18:54:47.234+00:00Yes, I do believe people can become addicted to th...Yes, I do believe people can become addicted to the internet. I just bought my teenage son his first computer last month. He goes to a charter school, and he has lots of assignments that require them to use Microsoft Word, Excel, and Powerpoint. I wanted him to have his own computer to park all of his electronic files. I am trying to teach him how to be responsible with the time he spends on computers and the internet (especially gaming activities). It is definitely a challenge. It is clear to me that if I don't maintain diligence that he would spend most of his time doing gaming activities.<br /><br />His friends sometimes make comments to him about how restrictive we are as his parents. The point is that all of these kids seem to be out of control and addicted to Cyberspace. My observation is that this is a serious problem, and I even believe the productivity in the work place suffers because of the current insanity.<br /><br />I love blogging and the ability to spread the gospel via the internet and my mobile devices. It's a cost effective way to reach a lot of people. And even though I don't spend any more time than I feel I have to on social networks, blogging, and my website, I do believe I spend too much time on these.<br /><br />Finally, being a minister and having a website, it's impossible for me to remain anonymous. I accept that as going with the territory. But I try to limit what I share about my personal life, and I don't share personal photos. <br /><br />As usual, great post. I really enjoyed reading some of the other comments as well.Frank Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07155126596496270174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-26452878877905806582013-01-16T18:32:37.725+00:002013-01-16T18:32:37.725+00:00First of all, I think everyone can spend their tim...First of all, I think everyone can spend their time any way they wish. So if someone wants to be on the internet 24/7, that's fine with me. As for internet safety I've never really worried about it. Chances are nothing dire will happen, but if it does I'll handle it. I've already been hacked a couple of times, and those were at worst minor inconveniences and actually quite funny. I just think people worry too much about everything. It's like Mark Twain said: "I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened." nothingprofoundhttp://wwwaphorismscom.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-48614647565956082802013-01-16T09:53:49.035+00:002013-01-16T09:53:49.035+00:00For the exact reason of why you have now got 50 co...For the exact reason of why you have now got 50 comments on this post you've been given a versatile blogging award: http://weirdn-wonderful.blogspot.co.uk/2013/01/the-versatile-blogger-award-or-liebster.htmlAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00458374643613099616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-36743396232375689952013-01-16T07:15:06.147+00:002013-01-16T07:15:06.147+00:00PS: if it is a homemade meal - cause I love to coo...PS: if it is a homemade meal - cause I love to cook, I will make a point to keep a random grocery store bill so I can "threaten" my guests/friends with something to pay :) let me know how it goes :) OneBigMistake, andSomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01921611798200613410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5914092373936984359.post-58002744651195870692013-01-16T06:27:53.657+00:002013-01-16T06:27:53.657+00:00It is better safe than sorry. You've got some ...It is better safe than sorry. You've got some simple tips which can be very effective. Thanks Janika.Rum-Punch Drunkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13531893705181077869noreply@blogger.com